Everyone knows that parents need support – as the saying goes, ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. But we are living in an era where families are far-flung. Friendships are transient, neighbours don’t speak and independence is prized above all else.
How on earth are we to rely on support networks that, for many of us, simply aren’t there? Continue reading Facebook Saved My Parenting! How to Build a Virtual Village
15 SURVIVAL STRATEGIES for Struggling Gentle Parents | This is for when everything is going wrong. When you are *this* close to chucking your positive parenting ideals in the can. When you risk yelling or resorting to sleep training.
You feel the tension building in your muscles. Your jaw clenches, your temperature rises.
When you need an intervention… Continue reading 15 SURVIVAL STRATEGIES for Struggling Gentle Parents | FREE Printable
I’ve always been a woman of strong emotions. It’s what makes me me. It’s what my husband first loved about me – my ability to feel so deeply. My deep emotions are what allow me to have real empathy for others, and what sparks my creativity – be that music, poetry, or even blogging.
It’s what makes me a good mum.
But this capacity to feel so richly also comes at a cost. My ability to love deeply is balanced by a deep scope for pain. My tendency to examine my emotions can lead to bouts of introspection and depression if left unchecked.
My enthusiasm for new projects can lead to burnout and my tenacity can quickly become anger if thwarted. I have a strong desire to parent well, and a strong stress reaction if things seem to be going wrong… Continue reading How to Cope with Powerful Emotions: The 90 Second Rule
I remember very clearly the first time I came across the concept of Childism. It was a complete blow-your-mind moment. In the space of one beautifully written article, I went from being completely oblivious, to the startling realisation that not only was this prejudice rife in society, but I was a major culprit… Continue reading Spotlight On Childism: The Uncomfortable Truth About Mainstream Parenting
There are mixed messages on what constitutes a capsule wardrobe, but in essence it’s about minimalism & coordination. You want to create a cohesive wardrobe that doesn’t include any excess, and yet makes you feel fabulous. You want items that can work in combination with each other, and create the feel of a signature style. Everything must be flattering, suitable for the chosen season’s climate and work with your lifestyle…
Continue reading Capsule Wardrobes for Messy Mums Part 2: Summer at Primark (Plus Size)
I love Gentle Parenting. I would consider myself a Gentle Parent. But man oh man is it tough sometimes. There are days when I literally feel like the worst parent in the world – that I am screwing up my kids and all of this effort is for nothing because, if I can’t be gentle 24/7, then surely they’re going to suffer the same detrimental effects as if I just subscribed to mainstream parenting… Continue reading When Gentle Parenting feels impossible | 15 Day-to-Day Coping Strategies
A couple of years back I had some friends who had a huge, beautiful house. They weren’t at all messy people, but as soon as they had kids, toys covered literally every surface… Continue reading Toy Rotation Sparks Elation! (12-15 Months: Week 1) | Simplify Your Home
Suddenly it’s like they have all new toys to play with – despite the fact that none of these toys are new to us, and we only own a very limited selection. Their concentration is renewed and they delve into independent play (although, being best friends, they do often end up playing together too… Continue reading Toy Rotation Sparks Elation! (9-12 Months: Week 3) | Simplify Your Home
In my last post I mentioned the prohibitive cost of baskets & trays, and that I have been using cardboard boxes as a thrift substitute. Well last week I came upon these lovely basket/trays in Home Bargains for £2.50! We’ll be road-testing them this week and I will let you know how they work out… Continue reading Toy Rotation Sparks Elation! (9-12 Months: Week 2) | Simplify Your Life
Now, when I am ill or tired or overwhelmed, or it’s star week, instead of fighting to be the perfect mum/wife/person, I say F*ck it. Chuck it. I declare it a Bucket Day… Continue reading The Perfection Deception: The Importance of ‘Bucket’ Days | Self-Care Series